SUICIDE (when you finally QUIT)

Hearts are disheartened, faces are drawn with concern, tears threatening to well up the eyes, blog sites are flooded, people scream on social media pages asking for help because the news of another suicide has just been broken.

As I sit here in my little study space with my scribbling hands haunting for the perfect words to lock this write up in, another suicide attempt flitted across my ears and this time, it was a close relative.

My heart jumped, pen dropped, I relapsed into a self conversation with concern written all over my face - what could be happening? Why do people opt to eliminate themselves? Death for me is something people are scared of, how come it's now people's most desired options? Even my garrulous Pen sighed at these grief haunting questions.

If I am to regret sorrowfully over anything right now, it will be based on the fact that those victims of suicide can't get to read this write up, perhaps they would have had a second thought.

Mankind by nature has been created with emotions which if trampled upon roughly, it could provoked an irrational attitude and sometimes leads a Man to commit the most devilish act. These same emotions of man are what drives him to be very compassionate with a fellow being and one basic fact about these emotions are, each individual has his own peak of emotional endurance.

Everyone who threads the path of the Earth are bound to taste his own spell of anguish. This spell comes in varying magnitude, it attacks us from angles which we don't even anticipate. When it raises its ugly head in our lives, it causes us to become emotionally wrought thereby leading us to anxiously source for a way out.

The most scary part of this spell is that it adds up even if we are so determined in finding a way out. It piles up, our fears heightens, we strongly despair of ever finding a breakthrough, it seems all evil forces on earth has us on their most wanted list, this world seems crumbling, everywhere is too silent to live in, we feel like hiding and in the end when we get to that peak of our emotional endurance, WE QUIT, thinking that is the only way out.

Now the question arises "ARE THEY TO BE BLAMED FOR EVER TAPPING INTO THE OPTION OF SUICIDE???".

This is a question that requires a high  level of intellectual response, because I am always startled when I get to know the reason behind someone's option for SUICIDE. People's comments always got me gawking, some rain curses on them while some are completely overwhelmed with overwhelming sympathy. For my own part, I just want to grab a hold on my pen.

A careful survey into this negative phenomenon has flooded some basic facts before me as to some of the reasons behind this evil and one of those reasons are

  "being reticent with our sorrows".

Most victims of suicide prior to their demise were discovered to be those sets of people who don't share their thoughts with others. They believe that the solution to their predicament is in their hands. And since their hands could not procure them the desired solutions, they felt there is no possible way out anymore and they QUIT.

These has proven by the small notes they dropped on the table detailing out the reasons behind their evil decisions. If only they were smart enough to share that anguish with a reasonable fellow prior to their decision, perhaps they could have had a narrow escape.

Like in the case of a teen girl who hanged herself because she couldn't contain her burden anymore. Her uncle had exploitatively explored her feminine core and he threatened her if she ever mentions this to anyone. The bastard had hacked into the foolishness of the naive girl. And since she was at the peak of her endurance she QUIT. 

She thought taking own live would put a stop to her predicament, but she was so silly to have not been mindful of the sorrow and anguish her decision would breath into her home. How do you expect that poor mother to get over this? If only you could read this!!!!! I hereby invoke the wrath of Allah upon that bastard who led this girl to a horrible end.

Also, we find a case of Gullibility (meaning to be easily deceived or to be foolish). This is the most disgusting reality that came out of my survey. Some victims of suicide took to this decision on account of an anguish caused to them by a fellow being.

I mean, let's analyze together the reason behind a lady's decision TO QUIT. She left a note on table pointing to the reason behind her decision. It reads as follows "I decided to kill myself because my boyfriend cheated on me". Yes! I was equally surprised when I read the news as well. If you would ask me, I would say she's the most stupid fellow I've heard of. How I wish you could read this.

And finally, the last reality that I have before me which is the most disheartening one, and this happens to be the most reason why we keep hearing of SUICIDE news.  And if due care is not taken, the situation will only get worse.

Most SUICIDE victims prior to their decision were already buried in their anguish even before their death. And it has been said that "anyone who has buried himself in anguish, has killed himself already. They were completely overwhelmed by their predicament to the point that they felt that their stay on Earth is meaningless.

They think they are the only ones experiencing a calamity, maybe if they had waited one second before their decision, perhaps they would have learnt that the guy across the road who is always smiling, is suffering a spell of higher magnitude than theirs. But still he was strong enough to contain it.

"He QUITS because he could not secure admission on first trial - He didn't wait to hear the spell of a brother who had written Jamb 10 times and still he's living fine".

"She QUITS because her marriage is 5 years old and she's yet to conceive. What about the grandma across the road who never had a child all her life"?

He attempted to QUIT because it's the 3rd year after obtaining his first degree and still he's yet to secure a Job. He didn't wait to read the tales of a guy who suffered similar anguish but he was able to navigate himself through it.

She QUITS because she had never had a marriage proposal, who knows whether the guy writing this is a strong admirer.

So many reasons why our brothers and sisters have taken their lives, and the only thing we can do is to sit back and make unnecessary noise on social media pages. Now, I think I have the response to question asked in the 8th paragraph of this write up:

The most blames is on the victims themselves no doubt because they were a victim of timidity and a slave of their own fears. But there is someone else that needs to be blamed harshly, and that is YOU AND ME.

Yes! You read right - YOU AND ME...When last have you called to check on a friend to ask how he's doing? Did you go to pay condolences to the man who lost all his families at once in a plane crash? Have you ever offered to feed the poor fellows in your community? What have you done to help eradicate this problem except that you wait for the evil to be done so you can scream on social media.

We are all one big family let's learn to take out sometime to check on ourselves. Sometimes, just a phone call could help ameliorate the anguish.

I pray to Almighty Allah with the sorrowful bleeding of my pen to help ameliorate the pains of our brothers and sisters in every corner of the globe and also to grant us that strong emotional endurance we need to contain our predicaments.

SAY NO TO SUICIDE

SANNI WAHAB OLANREWAJU